No one gets married expecting to have marriage problems and get divorced. People are filled with hope when they say "I Do" to the person they love. However, the cold reality is that the divorce rate is very high and is rising every day. Dissatisfaction in a marriage happens early because couples become more disillusioned with their dreams when they do not become reality. Men and women used to think that they have to watch out for the infamous seven-year itch that comes after seven years of marriage. Now, couples need to watch out for the two-year (or even 6-month) itch.
So, what are the most common problems in marriage? Many individuals agree that these problems fall in these categories: fidelity, finances, loss of intimacy and boredom.
Unfaithfulness is the most notorious of all common marriage problems. Infidelity often remains undetected because people just refuse to believe that that can happen to them. People think that no one would ever be unfaithful to them because they are good looking or rich. But the sad fact is that many people don't even know they have this marital problem. One of the most common relationship problems related to finances is when one of the spouses is secretive about a financial situation. Any loans or debts that are hidden from a husband or wife, can undermine the crucial element of trust in a healthy marriage. Boredom, another marital problem, happens early on in a marriage. After the honeymoon is over, couples realize that married life is not that easy. Boredom in marriage originates from the habit of not devoting any time for the marriage, and instead focusing on day to day needs such as chores and work. Many couples, and especially couples with children often become concerned about the loss of intimacy. Relaxed intimate moments and romantic evenings are a thing of the past. This a serious marital problem, but definitely not impossible to resolve.
It is a known fact that most couples who have "perfect" marriages just know how to deal with marital problems effectively, and they make an effort to keep their relationship alive.
2 comments:
You could have really made this post VERY long but you kept it short and sweet and to the point.
Being married twice now I have learned so much. One thing I have learned is that we have to have staying power. You can't look to run every time there's a problem. You have to communicate.
Another thing is that you can not put your whole being and reason for living into your spouse. Nothing on this earth is guaranteed. Also none of us are perfect so we should KNOW there will be problems and not easy ones. We need to turn to our faith. For me that is God. If I seek to please Him first He will give me the strength I need to keep my marriage and keep it healthy and that does not mean that all problems will disappear it just means I have help in fighting for it.
I could go on because Marriage is a deep subject but I'm going to leave it at that for now.
Resolving personal issues whatever it may be should not be handled alone. There are communities who are willing to support all the way to keep up the motivation. Just reach out and let others help to surpass the difficulties that you may be experiencing.
There's actually a support group wherein anyone can join, their Facebook page can be found at http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=141691450036
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